Racing thoughts? Regrets? Unanswered questions? Things left unsaid? Sounds like a breakup to me! This is why I’ve developed some breakup journal prompts to help you sort your thoughts, process what has happened, and even find peace with things.
While there is no formula for processing the experience there are things that you can do to be proactive about your healing. Even better news? You can take matters into your own hands and leave your ex out of the equation. That’s where breakup journal prompts come in.
These are three of the exercises I have found to be most effective for myself and my breakup coaching clients.
Get the journal prompts on the go! Download an episode I did on the topic here, or listen on Spotify below.
Breakup journal prompt #1: A letter to your ex
Would you love to tell your ex how you REALLY really feel about how things have gone down? How would it feel to unburden yourself FULLY and release the nagging thoughts racing on the hamster wheel in your head? Letter writing can help you do that.
Start with:
Dear [Ex’s name or your new pseudonym],
Here is what I really want you to know:
I encourage you to dive really deep into this breakup journal prompt. Save it for a time when you don’t have anything else to do.
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#2: What wasn’t working
Start with:
What I didn’t like about [this relationship] or [being with X]:
Go to town. List every little thing that your ex did that hurt you. All of the annoying things that this person did. List each time you fought. List what little and large things you always wanted out of your partner in the back of your mind that they never delivered. The times they let you down. Places where you found the relationship to be unfair. The things you did for this person that went unappreciated.
This breakup journal prompt isn’t me encouraging you to adopt a victim mindset. Quite the opposite. This is a valuable, POWERFUL exercise to help you step into your power, get your true feelings out of your body, and see that what has happened is for the best.
I have found that this journal exercise works best when done in an initial sitting to get the ball rolling and then returned to again and again over a period of about a week. Once energy is put into seeing the ways the relationship didn’t serve your highest purpose, a lot more will come to mind. Keep the list going to help you stay strong over the upcoming months of healing.
#3: What I want for myself is…
Take a deep breath. You’ve been through a breakup and it really sucks. This type of agony is a part of life, but it is also something to work toward overcoming and avoiding in the future.
Find a quiet time when you will be uninterrupted for at least a half-hour. Light a candle. Close your eyes and think about your future for a few minutes. Then, start with:
When I see myself one year from now, I see:
What does that future look like for you? If you went deep and could see your future self as happy as can be, what would they be doing two years from now? Where would they be living? What does this person’s apartment or house look like? What do their mornings look like? What do their surroundings look like each morning when they opens their eyes?
Does your future self have a partner? If so, what does the relationship look like? Do How does this person treat you? What do you have in common?
If you find that you want to go deep into visualizing your future partner, allow yourself to write two different journal entries.
I would love to hear what you come up with for your journal entries and would love to help you manifest the future of your dreams. Please contact me if you would like to go deeper with some one-on-one coaching. Or, if you’d like to get powerful breakup support delivered to your inbox each morning, check out the Broken Heart Repair Kit.
You’ve got this!
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