Traditional flirts enjoy following the traditional/historic norms of the courting process - one person overtly pursues and one enjoys being sought after. This may look like the “expected”/pursuer making the “first move” and then taking the lead in initiating dates. It also often includes easy-to-follow rules around who takes the lead financially. 

How to spot them:

-Easily! The “pursuer” will not hold back from taking the lead. 

-The person being pursued will readily accept and express gratitude. 

-People with a traditional flirting style will often be dressed to impress, knowing that those seeking this type of relationship readily notice the effort 

Superpowers: 

-Confidence. Both the pursuer and the pursued are comfortable with the expectations and can see what each gains from the traditional structure. 

-Clarity - both people engaging in the traditional structure will share an understanding about the objectives of the courting process. 

-A level of expertise around flirting. Because Traditional flirts follow a certain “script” they are happy to express it to others. 

Possible drawbacks:

-Learning how to effectively sit in the roles. 

-Making assumptions about the nature of an early relationship.

-Setting up expectations about the outcome of early dates rather than going into them in a laid back way. 

Where this type might shine: 

-Certain niche/community specific dating apps with others who prefer traditional gender/relationship roles. 

-Clubs, people often expect Traditional ways of meeting in this type of environment. 

Advice from a dating coach: 

-Just because you understand traditional roles and how you fit into them doesn’t mean things should be taken for granted. Continue to learn how to communicate with partners, both in the beginning and ongoing. 

-Own your preferences. If you want to be in a relationship with someone who takes the lead in various ways, have high standards about finding that person. If you revel in being the pursuer and taking a leadership role in relationships look for partners who will support that and appreciate it. 

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