Polite flirts might feel inexperienced or as though they are constantly trying to learn the “rules” of flirting and dating. They are concerned about doing things “right” and worried about making someone uncomfortable. They consume a lot of online content about the in’s and out’s of meeting people and err on the side of caution when deciding how to move forward after meeting someone they are attracted to.
How to spot them:
-Giving attention and asking questions about someone’s life/background, similar to what someone might do in a networking event.
-You might have a great conversation with a Polite flirt and then wonder why they didn’t seem interested in taking things further.
Super powers:
-Having or gaining a high-level of respect for someone before making the first move.
-Helping people feel at ease due to thoughtful interactions and initiations.
-A high level of curiosity and expertise about meeting people and forming relationships.
Possible drawbacks:
-May miss out on opportunities for connections because of wanting to do things “right.”
-Becoming resentful of people with more “aggressive” flirting styles who appear to have more “success.”
-Getting stuck in their head about how they are flirting or over-thinking how they did after the fact.
Where this type might shine:
-In a setting with people with similar interests or backgrounds i.e. a church or certain social meetups.
-Events specifically for singles.
-Niche dating apps/dating apps for people from specific backgrounds or interests.
Tips from a dating coach:
-Attend events designed to help people meet each other such as a meetup or speed dating event.
-Be overt in online profiles about intentions.
-Practice going outside of your comfort zone when trying to meet people or flirt.
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