Becoming securely attached w/Brian Dunn

Date Aired: September 11, 2024

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Produced By Janice Formichella

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Episode Description

Becoming securely attached is a journey, not a destination. In this episode of Sex and the Solo Girl, I dig deep into what it really takes to transform your attachment style, both in theory and in practice. I’m joined by one of my favorite guest co-hosts, Brian Dunn, for a candid conversation about what attachment theory is, how it shows up in our dating lives, and why it matters for anyone seeking authentic, stable relationships.

Together, Brian and I break down the classic attachment styles in relationships: avoidant, anxious, and the often misunderstood disorganized or anxious-fearful type. We get real about our own journeys. I share the raw truth about how I moved from deep insecurity and even jealousy to truly earned secure attachment. Brian describes how his path has involved both self-reflection and choosing healthier partners.

Key topics we cover include:

How your nervous system and childhood experiences shape your attachment style, and how that’s not a life sentence.
What it means to “earn” secure attachment. Why healing anxious attachment (or avoidant patterns) is possible for anyone.
Practical ways to develop secure attachment, from self-soothing and conscious breathing to healthy communication and boundaries.
Real-life examples of how to communicate your needs, set boundaries, and handle dating differently, whether you tend to attach quickly or pull away.
The importance of self-reflection and changing patterns, not just in romantic relationships but with friends, family, and even colleagues.

We emphasize that becoming securely attached isn’t about being perfect. it’s about being honest with yourself, learning new tools, and allowing yourself to grow. Brian and I both agree: secure attachment is a foundation for not just love, but a more grounded, peaceful life.

This episode is for anyone who wants to stop repeating old patterns. If you want to start enjoying more ease, joy, and satisfaction in your relationships, give it a listen! If you found this conversation helpful, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or reach out with your own attachment journey. I’d love to hear from you and support your next steps.