FlirtStyleQuiz | Janice Formichella

Everyone has their own way of flirting.

Some people love playful banter, others connect through genuine curiosity, subtle gestures, confident displays of attraction, or a little old-fashioned romance.

This free quiz based on the work of behavioral scientist Dr. Jeff Hall, will give you a quick look into which of the five flirting styles you align with.

Think about how you naturally act when someone catches your interest, whether you're meeting in person or connecting online.

For each question, choose the answer that feels most like you. You don't have to identify with every detail. Just pick the approach that comes most naturally.

There are no right or wrong answers!

Question 1 of 12 *You're creating a dating app profile. Which of these sounds most like something you'd put in your bio?"I'm a big believer in chemistry. Let's see if there's a spark in person instead of spending weeks messaging." I'd choose photos that show my confidence and personality, too"I'm happiest exploring somewhere new, getting lost in a good book, or spending hours talking about something I'm passionate about. Tell me what you could talk about all night.""I love the anticipation of a proper date, a thoughtful invitation, and a little romance." I'd make it clear that I enjoy the traditions of courtship, whether I'm doing the wooing or being wooed."My most controversial opinion? Breakfast food is superior at every hour of the day. Come prepared to defend your position." I like giving people something fun to respond to."A little about me: I love live music, weekend adventures, and finding new places around town. I'd enjoy getting to know you!" I'd keep things friendly, approachable, and easy to respond to.

Question 2 of 12 *You match with someone interesting on a dating app. Which opening exchange feels most natural to you?A friendly, low-key start like, "Hi! Nice to match with you. How's your week going?" I like leaving room for the conversation to unfold.I notice something funny in their profile and run with it. If they mention loving terrible movies, I might ask, "Okay, what's the worst movie you'll defend with your life?"I'm comfortable making the attraction obvious from the start: "I have to say, that smile definitely caught my attention."I enjoy a charming, deliberate introduction. I'd either open with something like, "I'd be delighted to get to know you," or enjoy receiving an equally thoughtful first message.Something in their profile genuinely intrigues me, so I start there: "You mentioned restoring an old motorcycle with your dad. That sounds like quite a project! How did you get into it?"

Question 3 of 12 *You've been messaging someone you haven't met yet, and things are going well. How does your flirting develop?I become more comfortable sharing pieces of my own life. I might tell them a funny or revealing story about myself, especially if it connects to something they've told me.I enjoy the little rituals of romantic anticipation. I might send a thoughtful good-morning message or enjoy receiving one that makes me feel especially courted.I offer small, understated signals that I'm enjoying our connection, like, "You always make me smile when I see your messages." I let the flirting build without rushing it.I become more direct about my attraction. I might tell them I find them sexy, add a little suggestive flirting, or mention how much I'd like to experience our chemistry face-to-face.Our conversations develop their own sense of humor. We might start a ridiculous ongoing debate, invent nicknames for each other, or send messages that only the two of us would find funny.

Question 4 of 12 *You've been chatting with someone online and would like to meet in person. How do you make that happen?I turn our running jokes into an invitation: "We clearly need to settle this mini-golf debate in person. Loser buys ice cream!"I keep the invitation relaxed and easy to accept: "I've enjoyed chatting with you. Would you be interested in grabbing coffee sometime?"I tell them how much I've enjoyed getting to know them and suggest taking the connection offline: "I’m having fun chatting with you. I'd really like to continue this in person."I enjoy the ritual of asking someone on a proper date, complete with a thoughtful plan. Or I make my interest clear and enjoy letting them extend that kind of invitation.I'm eager to see whether the attraction translates in person. I might say, "I think we've got some chemistry here. Want to meet for a drink and find out?"

Question 5 of 12 *You've met someone you really enjoyed flirting with, and you're texting them afterward. What might your message look like?"Thank you for a wonderful evening. I'd love to take you out again Saturday." Or, if I prefer being courted, I'd warmly express how much I'd welcome another invitation."I'm still thinking about that goodbye hug. I think we may need a longer one next time.""I just walked past a taco place and remembered your outrageous claim about having found the best tacos in town. We may need to investigate.""I've been thinking about what you said about starting your own business. I love how excited you are about it, and I really enjoyed hearing your story.""I had a really nice time tonight. Thank you again!" I'd keep it warm and simple, without making too much of the moment.

Question 6 of 12 *You're at a social gathering and someone catches your interest. How do you approach them?If I hear them mention something we have in common, I'll jump in with an experience of my own. "You went to Iceland? I went last year! I still can't get over how beautiful it was."I look for a lighthearted way to introduce myself, perhaps with a funny observation about something happening at the party that we can both laugh about.I enjoy a charming introduction. I might approach and offer to get them a drink, or give an interested person an inviting look that encourages them to come introduce themselves.I look for a moment when they're not occupied, offer a friendly introduction, and find a comfortable way to start chatting. If we click, I'll give them a little extra attention.I approach confidently, stand close enough for a more personal conversation, and let my enthusiasm and expressive body language make it pretty clear that I'm attracted to them.

Question 7 of 12 *You're on a date and want to give someone a compliment. What feels most natural?I'm direct about my attraction. I might look them up and down appreciatively and say, "You look amazing tonight," making it clear that I'm flirting.I notice a small detail and offer a warm, understated compliment: "That color really suits you," or "You have such a nice laugh."I notice something about who they are that genuinely impresses me: "I love how excited you get when you talk about your art. It's wonderful to see."I make it a little playful. If they've just beaten me at a game, I might grin and say, "Well, apparently being ridiculously charming wasn't enough. You had to be talented, too."I enjoy the occasion of a romantic compliment. I might pause when they arrive, take in how lovely they look, and offer an admiring greeting—or enjoy that moment when someone greets me that way.

Question 8 of 12 *You've been flirting with someone on a dating app, and you're having your first video call. How does your interest come through?I'm not shy about letting them know I find them attractive. I might smile and say, "Okay, you're even cuter when you're talking," or compliment their voice as we chat.I'm warm and a little understated, perhaps telling them, "I'm glad we got to do this. It's really nice to see you," and letting the conversation flow without making a big production of it.I enjoy treating the call like a little date. I might dress up for the occasion and make a charming greeting—or particularly enjoy seeing that they've made a romantic effort for me.I share something that matters to me and invite them into the conversation. If we discover a shared interest, I might tell them about an experience that made it meaningful to me.I keep things lively and spontaneous. I might show them something ridiculous on my bookshelf, make a funny observation about my surroundings, or turn a small mishap into a shared laugh.

Question 9 of 12 *You're exploring a street festival with someone you're attracted to. How does your flirting come out?I turn the afternoon into a little game. "We're each picking the weirdest snack we can find. Whoever chooses the better one gets to gloat for the rest of the day."I'm enjoying the energy of being together. I might walk close beside them, gently offer my hand in a crowded area if they seem receptive, or put an arm around them when we stop to watch a performance.I enjoy making the outing a little romantic. I might offer my arm as we stroll, make a charming gesture of buying them a flower, or enjoy being the recipient of that kind of attention.I show my interest through little, considerate gestures. I might offer to share something I've bought, ask if they'd like to check out a nearby stall, or quietly tell them I'm glad we came together.Something at a booth reminds me of a story they've told me, and I bring it up. I enjoy those moments when an ordinary outing becomes a chance to connect over our own experiences.

Question 10 of 12 *You're with friends when someone you're attracted to joins the group. How do you give them a little extra attention?I look for a chance to create a small romantic moment within the gathering. I might invite them to join me for a drink away from the crowd, or welcome that kind of personal invitation from them.I make sure they feel included, but with a little extra warmth. I might save them a place near me and quietly say, "I'm really glad you made it."I draw them into the fun, perhaps asking them to settle a ridiculous debate we've been having or giving them a playful challenge that gets us laughing together.I naturally gravitate toward them. I might move closer so we can talk, turn toward them when they speak, or find opportunities for a more personal, flirtatious exchange.I remember something they told me the last time we met and bring it up. "Hey, how did that big presentation go? I remember you were excited about it!"

Question 11 of 12 *You're flirting with someone and realize they're flirting back. What do you naturally do next?I become a little more open about myself. I might share a personal story or tell them something I genuinely appreciate about the connection we're building.I respond confidently to the attraction. I might step closer, give them a more direct compliment, or find a natural opportunity for touch if it's mutually welcome.I enjoy taking the romantic exchange a step further. I might make a deliberate invitation for a date, or offer an encouraging response that makes it clear I'd welcome their pursuit.I turn up the playful energy, perhaps continuing an inside joke, inventing a silly challenge, or trading a few more flirtatious remarks.I offer a small but unmistakable sign of encouragement, perhaps saying, "I'd really enjoy spending more time with you," while letting the interaction develop at a comfortable pace.

Question 12 of 12 *You've had a wonderful conversation with someone you're attracted to, and it's time to say goodbye. How do you leave things?I end with a playful callback to something we laughed about: "I'm still expecting that rematch. Don't think you're getting out of it!"I enjoy a memorable romantic closing. I might ask, "When can I have the pleasure of seeing you again?" or give them a warm opportunity to ask me.I'm comfortable making my attraction clear. I might give them a lingering, mutually welcome hug, move a little closer as we say goodbye, or directly tell them I'd love to see them again.I offer a warm but understated goodbye: "It was really nice meeting you. I'd enjoy talking again sometime."I tell them something personal about how I've enjoyed our connection: "I felt really comfortable talking with you tonight. I'd love to do this again."

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