“Boy sober”

Date Aired: October 30, 2024

Produced By Janice Formichella

Want to add more flavor to the relationship you have with yourself? With others? Do you want to do it in a way that is just yours? This podcast is your chance to connect with an entire community who feel the same way.

Join me for weekly chats about dating, healthy relationships and communication, secure attachment, the single life, and of course…SEX!

I back each juicy episode with research, humor, practical advice, and tips you can use to add plenty of spice to your life, no matter what your relationship status.

Is going “boy sober” the way to put an end to your dating angst? It just might be….

Boy Sober is more than a trending phrase—it’s a life-changing experience, and in this episode, I get beautifully candid about what it really means to step away from dating, hookups, and even thinking about potential partners. I’m joined by my wonderful friend and frequent collaborator, Julie Demsey, for a conversation that’s equal parts real talk, research, and lived experience.

Julie and I dig into why Boy Sober has become the latest buzzword among Gen Z and millennials, and why women (and everyone, really) can benefit from a true dating hiatus. We unpack what Boy Sober actually means: taking an intentional break from dating apps, romantic entanglements, and the constant mental space given to exes, crushes, or “the one who got away.” This isn’t about celibacy—this is about reclaiming your energy and putting yourself at the very center of your own universe.

I open up about my own multi-year journey with being Boy Sober and how it was one of the best decisions I ever made for my personal growth and self-worth. Julie shares her take on why the trend resonates so deeply.

Together in this episode we discuss

What it actually means to be “boy sober”
My sex hiatus, and how taking a dating hiatus frees up emotional bandwidth for healing, clarity, and solo self-discovery.
The psychological impact of stepping away from dating apps and toxic patterns, and why people should consider their own version of “dating sober.”
The powerful practice of dating yourself, embracing solo travel, and finding joy in your own company.
Honest confessions about falling back into old patterns (yes, we’ve both been there) and the progress that comes from catching ourselves sooner each time.

We also challenge the idea that being single or stepping away from romance is something to “fix.” Instead, Boy Sober becomes a springboard for new adventures, self-love, and a more intentional dating life when you’re truly ready. If you’re curious, skeptical, or in need of a reset, I invite you to take this journey for yourself. Share this episode with a friend, leave a review, or reach out to me or Julie to talk about your own experience with going Boy Sober.