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The psychology of breakups
The psychology of breakups is so much deeper and more universal than most people realize. In this episode, I take you on a science-backed journey through why breakups mess with our minds, our emotions, and sometimes even our sense of self. Whether you’re currently in the thick of heartbreak or simply curious about why the end of a relationship can turn your world upside down, you’ll find validation, compassion, and real tools here.
Drawing from both personal experience and the latest research, I break down:
- Why breakups trigger such intense emotions, from rage and fear to crushing loneliness, and how these states throw our nervous systems off balance.
- How coping with rejection isn’t just an emotional hurdle—it physically affects the brain in ways that are similar to physical pain, and can even temporarily lower our IQ and decision-making skills.
- The wild truth that breakups really do resemble addiction, both in the way we crave contact with an ex and in the hormonal withdrawal our brains endure.
- Why the “fading affect bias” can make us miss our ex, even if the relationship was toxic or unhealthy, and how our minds selectively remember positive over negative experiences.
- Actionable strategies for emotional healing after a breakup, including self-care, intentional distraction, digging deep for your personal “why,” and getting real support—whether that’s from friends, a coach, or therapy.
I open up about my own stories of heartbreak, including surviving back-to-back unhealthy relationships and the regrets and longing that followed. Most importantly, I remind you: you are not alone, your pain is temporary, and there are concrete things you can do to move forward. If you’re ready to take charge of your healing or simply need to feel seen, this episode is here for you. Share it with someone who needs it, leave a review, or reach out to book a free coaching session with me. Your healing starts now.
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More learning: check out these great episodes from my podcast network:
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