Secure Attachment Coaching
Transform the way you show up in relationships with yourself and others. Embrace the opportunity of becoming securely attached.Do relationships feel just out of reach for you?
Are you disappointed in the way your last relationship ended?
Do you you have a great capacity to love?
Is companionship something you deeply desire?
Do you feel defeated because of how many times that companionship has fallen through your fingertips?
Are you sure of your ability to learn from and overcome your dating patterns and habits?
Let’s do this.
I know what it’s like to feel that relationships are just out of your reach.
I am also familiar with how real yet how confronting the reality of self-sabotage can be. AND I know that it is possible to learn how to show up for yourself and others in entirely new and healthier ways.
Please know that:
- It can feel like our habits and patterns are encoded in us and out of our control. But they aren’t.
- Anxiety can feel overwhelming. Avoidance can feel natural. And they can both put daggers in our romantic relationships.
- Along the same lines…we can subconsciously sabotage things we genuinely desire.
- The “work” can be one of the most fulfilling things we will ever do. With the biggest pay off.
- Self-sabotage is real – even if we don’t realize we are doing it (I’ve been there as well!).
- You CAN build the relationships you want and deserve.
Ready to take power into your own hands and do the work to attract and build happier and longer-lasting relationships?
The Secure Dating Toolkit
My full program, the Secure Dating Toolkit, is designed and proven to support your journey to move from Insecure to Secure Attachment, as well as to pick up your dating confidence and get you back in the dating game. It has two distinct parts: the Becoming Securely Attached intensive, and the Intentional Dating intensive.
Becoming Securely Attached
This intensive is designed to support your journey to move from Insecure to Secure Attachment (it IS available to you). Despite how your previous relationships have ended, I believe in your ability to turn things around–IF you want to.
I have a science-informed, research-based, customized roadmap to help you do it.
Step 1: Attachment style assessment and history
Together, we will take a deep dive into your attachment style history. We will then take what we learn and build a loving relationship with your past, your patterns, and your history. Finally, we will explore what it is you want in your relationships and gain the knowledge and power needed to embolden yourself to create a new types of love with yourself and others.
Step 2: Build a comprehensive relationship inventory
What does the most secure version of yourself truly desire out of relationships? I’ll help you unpeel it. How does that person show up for themselves and others? Through guided exercises, out of session homework, and introspection, we will learn about your conflict style, take a look at your needs/dealbreakers, and conduct a CLOSE examination into your triggers. The end result: a firm foundation for a more peaceful experience with dating and relationships.
Step 3: Write your magical new beginning
In this step, we will take the love you develop for your past and the knowledge we gain to commit to new ways of doing things that open up a happier future for you and the important people in your life. What does being secure look like to you? What have we learned about your habits that we can turn into commitments to change? Let me pinpoint what your self-soothing style is and come up with an action plan to build new muscle memory and healthy habits.
In the end, you will come to know what opportunities secure attachment offers for your life in and outside of relationships.
Ready to roll up your sleeves and get to work? Book your free first session today!
Intentional Dating
Wanting companionship is a valid and beautiful desire. But it sure isn’t easy to find, right? You may be surprised about what a game changer some loving and informed support can be. I LOVE dating coaching and have developed a program that provides fun and effective support each step of the way.
Phase 1: Confidence Coaching Program
Have you ever heard that confidence is the sexiest quality? It’s true! We will first take a look at the state of your confidence, where you’d like to make improvements, and have some fun doing it! From loving your life as it is to loving the person you see in the mirror to getting crystal clear on how to have boundaries we are going to get you feeling stronger than ever and ready to attract other confident people into your life.
Phase 2: Showcasing your best self
Let’s get intentional! It’s time to develop a strategy that is going to help make your dating experience positive, no matter how many second dates you go on. Together we will determine your dating goals and how to achieve them. Get out your apps, let’s get you ready to get out there!
Phase 3: Dating strategy and guidance
Let the fun begin! It’s time to start matching and seeing where your dating journey takes you. Together we will take the confidence you’ve built to get comfortable meeting new people on and off the apps, make sure you have support prepping for your first dates, and help navigating what happens after.
Do you have the desire to get confident and start a new fun and exciting chapter in your dating life?
While I have a road map that works regardless of your current attachment style and dating confidence…
- Each person is different
- Past experiences are different
- And therefore…each person’s journey is different
This is why I ALWAYS offer personalized support depending on where YOU are when we meet. No matter what type of program we work together on, I will be there for YOU every day and we will co-create action plans based on what will most support you on your healing journey.
Want a dating coach, but not sure where to start?
I have three different customized programs to meet you where you are on your dating adventures and what you want to accomplish during our time together.
Becoming Securely Attached 3 month intensive
3 month guided program
- Pre-program assessment
- One 90-minute fireworks workshop
- Six 60-minute live 1:1 sessions
- Three months of unlimited daily text/voice memo support
- Full historical attachment style assessment
- Comprehensive relationship inventory/love map
- Weekly action plans personalized to your goals
- Conflict style evaluation and exploration
- “My triggers” assessment
- Self soothing discovery and training program
- Customized resources and homework based on your unique needs
$1,499
The Secure Dating toolkit
6 month full guided program
- Pre-program assessment
- One 90-minute fireworks workshop
- Twenty four 60-minute live 1:1 sessions
- Six months of unlimited daily text/voice memo support
- Full historical attachment style assessment
- Comprehensive relationship inventory/love map
- Weekly action plans personalized to your goals
- Conflict style evaluation and exploration
- “My triggers” assessment
- Self soothing discovery and training program
- Comprehensive confidence assessment
- Dating with Confidence coaching program
- Full relationship boundaries assessment
- Dating app optimization program
- Speed dating strategy and marketing program
- Dating strategy and reflection
- Customized resources and homework based on your unique needs
$2,799
The Intentional Dating 3 month intensive
3 month guided program
- Pre-program assessment
- One 90-minute fireworks workshop
- Six 60-minute live 1:1 sessions
- Three months of unlimited daily text/voice support
- Weekly action plans personalized to your goals
- Comprehensive confidence assessment
- Dating with Confidence coaching program
- Full relationship boundaries assessment
- Dating app optimization program
- Speed dating strategy and marketing program
- Dating strategy and reflection
- Customized resources and homework based on your unique needs
$1,499
FAQs
I don't know exactly what type of support I need, is coaching right for me?
If you aren’t familiar with the coaching process you may have a lot of questions. Ask me! Send me a message using the form below or book a quick chat here.
What is text/voice memo support?
Let me support you in real time! The time in between our calls is the “activation” period of your coaching program. During this time you may discover things, have questions come up, or need some additional guidance. My coaching programs are unique in that I provide ongoing support to my clients between our in person sessions via WhatsApp.
Want to get my take on something? Reach out, and expect a timely and thoughtful response in return.
Do you work with all genders?
Yes! I work with people of ALL backgrounds and identities.
Do you have infrequently asked questions?
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About your Coach
Janice Formichella | BA, MPA
Like many of us, I wasn’t raised with examples of healthy relationships to learn from. I WAS raised to believe that one of the most important things you can do in life is to be married and that long-term relationships were all encompassing. This caused me to be controlling and anxious in my early relationships and to allow myself to be treated horribly for the sake of saving the relationship.
I was married and then divorced at a very young age. This caused me to enter the dating world with low self-worth and move in and out of relationships with low expectations and standards.
Being in a physically abusive relationship caused me to re-enter the dating world hungry for attention but terrified of intimacy and therefore heavily avoidant. Relationship after relationship ended painfully and led me to devote years of my life to improving myself, learning about relationships, becoming my own soulmate. THEN, I figured out how to date with confidence, healthy boundaries, and curiosity (and the ability to attract and keep GREAT relationships).
I am here to help you do the same.
Besides my personal experience, I am a qualified Beautiful You life coach, a certified group facilitator with Sacred Sister, hold a BA in Gender Studies from ASU, and an MPA from NYU.